Poor timing

They say there is a time and place for everything.

I guess.

But with the tragedy that took place in my brother’s family recently, I came across a situation that doesn’t fit a right time or place.

When Landon passed away, there was a lot of pain. There obviously still is, but the initial pain cannot be described. In now way can I imagine what Ben and Nicole were and are going through.

Last night Ben opened up to my brother in law Craig and I. The three of us went to see Superman and had some time to kill. So we walked to the nearby Target and started talking. I asked if anyone asked him any insensitive or inappropriate questions. He turned and rolled his eyes and then told me one of the comments.

Now keep in mind that prior to this comment being made, Landon’s death was already ruled SIDS. But someone apparently asked them if they thought it was because of Landon’s allergies.

I started this post but saying there is a time and place for everything. But not something like that.

1). The doctor already said what it was. To imply or try to think something else is ludicrous.

2). The grieving family doesn’t even need to have that as a thought in their mind. Think about what was said. It may not have been implied, but all it says to the mother and father is “You’re bad parents.”

3). Why even say it when someone is grieving. Now is not the time to ask questions about the circumstance, but the time to ask what you can do for them. It’s not the time to find out what happened, but to find out how they are doing.

One simple question could end up ruining a friendship or relationship. I don’t know how close the person was to them. It doesn’t matter.

There is a time and place for everything. There is a time to talk. There is a time to ask questions.

But right now, it’s a time to be quiet.